The Surviving Vs. Thriving
Debate by Bethany Aleshire
Life can get hard and busy quickly and
without warning. Something blows up, a lot of to-do’s pile up, or you blinked
and it’s suddenly your busy season. What do we do? We go into survival mode and
do the bare minimum to get through each day. We don’t write, blog or go the
extra mile because our world will stay together if we ignore them – compared to
finishing an assignment from your boss who is breathing down your neck about it…that
obviously could make your world shatter if you ignored it.
As much as I recognize how pressing our
urgent to-do’s are, how important is the “fluff” we choose to leave out?
Blogging.
Calling up your Mom.
Working out to get your fit body.
Reading.
Saying prayers over your kids.
Striking up a conversation with a
stranger.
Writing your novel.
Hiking for a day.
Bringing an idea to life that you’ve had
on your heart for a long time.
Taking a slower route home.
©Bethany Aleshire |
Will we get to the end of our lives and
realize that we only got the bare minimum done? That we got the kids out the
door every morning at 7am sharp, but not with love? That we did what was
required by our jobs to climb the ladder, but threw our true dreams in the
trash? That we created and maintained a clean house, but never had the time to
take a walk through our neighborhood?
I don’t write about
this because I’m the most thriving person you’ll ever meet…definitely not! But
because I slip into this mindset way more than I’d like to share. For example,
in this past semester I only blogged twice. Twice! I want to say it slipped by
me, but no, it did not. It slipped by me because I decided to go into survival
mode. Yes, I got all my homework in on time and did fine on my finals, but now
my online brand is going to take some serious work to get it back up and
running. That could hinder me more than a lower grade in one of my classes.
Overall, it’s all about putting important things first and not the urgent things.
The dream team behind Shine and Soar Magazine |
Yet, don’t hold yourself to a perfect
standard, give yourself some grace! I’ve done some thriving (though it rarely
feels like it cause it’s disguised as hard work!) in my time, but there are
days where I need to watch Downtown Abbey and eat a bowl of ice cream. You just
need to. But if I do that for days upon days, and hours upon hours, my heart
goes limp and I know I’m entering into a new slump – which leads to a period of
me catching up on procrastinated to-do’s, which leads to a survival mindset. As
always, moderation is key.
So, as you start your 2014, I hope you
thrive in the hard work of pursuing your dreams and also in the times of
intentional and fulfilling rest. Don’t let the survival mindset swallow you
whole.
Bethany's Ah-hahs To Tweet:
Bethany's Ah-hahs To Tweet:
Bethany
Aleshire, young adult Editor & Chief of Shine and Soar Magazine, visits on
Everyone’s Story. (Tweet This)
Meet
Bethany Aleshire, a talented young woman who wants to encourage your daughters!
(Tweet This)
Discouraged
by today’s youth? Bethany Aleshire will change your mind. (Tweet This)
Author's Bio:
I am a photographer, believer, emboldener, lover, visionary, and entrepreneur. I've got my hands in a few creative projects; mainly running a magazine, Shine and Soar, for Christian women entrepreneurs, running my own photography business, and pursuing a degree in graphic design. But overall, I'm just a girl with many creative dreams and a deep heart.
Find Rachel on the Web:
Personal Website
Shine and Soar Magazine
Twitter
Facebook
Instagram
I am a photographer, believer, emboldener, lover, visionary, and entrepreneur. I've got my hands in a few creative projects; mainly running a magazine, Shine and Soar, for Christian women entrepreneurs, running my own photography business, and pursuing a degree in graphic design. But overall, I'm just a girl with many creative dreams and a deep heart.
Find Rachel on the Web:
Personal Website
Shine and Soar Magazine
What a breath of fresh air this post is! One that I needed. It is so easy to go into survival mode and forget what's really important.
ReplyDeleteYou're so right, Pat. And I'm too much of a pro at survival mode. Ouch. I need to live a bit more in 2014.
DeleteAnyone else?
So glad it refreshed you Patricia! May 2014 be one of truly living :)
DeleteThanks for being an encourager to ALL ages, Bethany!
ReplyDeleteKathy, thanks for stopping by today. And thanks for encouraging Bethany. May you both be blessed in your efforts to please Him.
DeleteThank you Kathy for the encouragement!!
DeleteBethany, you are so far beyond your years. You have such a beautiful mind and heart and I hope you never stop sharing them with the world. LOVE this and NEEDED it and now I'm off to workout before long day of homework (with fun breaks, of course!). xoXO
ReplyDeleteWelcome to Everyone's Story and thanks for cheering Bethany along. Seems as if you're also onboard Bethany's Plan Of Perspective--knowing priorities and getting work done while allowing time for fun. Awesome.
DeleteAlex!! :) I love you!
DeleteHeartfelt thanks, Bethany, for guest appearing on Everyone's Story this past week. You've been a true joy to host. I'm looking forward to see your achievements through the years because I believe that whatever great or small thing you set your heart on, and for God's glory, I'm sure you will accomplish it. May you be blessed in all of your endeavors.
ReplyDelete