Carole Brown: Eight Ways To Stick It Out

Everyone's Story welcomes back Carole Brown. The theme of this blog is encouraging others, especially sharing the love of God, and seeing how the power of uplifting others through hope and faith can do wonders. I think this week's guest, multi-published author and sweet lady, Carole Brown, does a pretty excellent job at cheering us all along. What do you think? Both Carole and I look forward to hearing from you. Also, check out Carole's BookGiveaway!

***I'll love for you to take a moment and take the short poll on the right-hand sidebar of how far you're willing to read before deciding the book isn't for you. Thanks so much.

BookGiveaway:

Carole is offering 1 copy of WITH MUSIC IN THEIR HEARTS, either print or e-version--winner's choice, although US only for print--to 1 winner. The winner will be announced here on Friday, March 6th between 5-6 PM EST. To be entered in the Giveaway, please leave your contact information within your comment. 

Blurb of WITH MUSIC IN THEIR HEARTS:

Angry at being rejected for military service, Minister Tyrell Walker accepts the call to serve as a civilian spy within his own country. Across the river from Cincinnati, Ohio, a spy working for a foreign country is stealing secret plans for newly developed ammunition to be used in the war. According to his FBI cousin, this spy favors pink stationery giving strong indications that a woman is involved.

He’s instructed to obtain a room in the Rayner Boarding House run by the lovely, spunky red-haired Emma Jaine Rayner. Sparks of jealousy and love fly between them immediately even as they battle suspicions that one or the other is not on the up and up.

Will their love survive the danger and personal issues that arise to hinder the path of true love?

Stick It Out by Carole Brown

She wished she could go away. Papa had always told her she needed to broaden her horizons. But now, at the beginning of war?

No, she couldn’t leave the boarding house to Papa and her sisters to run. She would have to stick it out. –from With Music in Their Hearts

                                                            

Have you ever wanted to run away?

Stick your head in the sand?

Wished for yourself to be somewhere else?

Or cried out for “it would all to go away?”

Of course, most of us has! But life doesn’t usually happen that way. Most of us have to live through it, get by, or stick it out. And that’s not easy.

Let me give you three possible scenarios:

When you’re young and in love and perhaps married before finishing school or ready to take on family life, and you suddenly are faced with multiple bills that pile up and you can’t meet the deal lines of payment, what do you do?

--Buckle down, reduce your expenses if you can and cut, cut, cut. Hubby and I married. He had a good job and I was teaching, but we had a house payment, utilities and other normal expenses. Was it easy? Nope. We cut the thermostat back to what I now consider “COLD” at nights. We existed on hamburger and prayed in the rest. Lol now, but not then. We know God cares about even our simple little needs.

And what if your husband, or you, lose that wonderful job--your security to all the things you’re used to for a good life? How embarrassing and how scary!

--Yes, but how real! In today’s world, with businesses downsizing and closing, with the economy as it is, and some careers overloaded with younger applicants, it’s a horrible position to find oneself. When it was no longer an option for hubby to work with his uncle, he decided to branch out on his own. Scary? Yes! Lean years? Yes! But we’ve gotten through it, and our faith is stronger because of it.

And one more example . . .

Horror of horrors, what if you’re suddenly placed in the position of a single parent? My advice:

--Seek help. There are plenty of government programs that can help tide you over if you need assistance.

--Begin immediately to look for work if you’ve been a stay-at-home person. If you don’t need the money, join some groups in your neighborhood for the fellowship. Participate or volunteer. Keep your mind busy and your hands active.

--And don’t forget to give yourself room to mourn, to recover, and to relax. Your body and soul needs it.

--Pray often and remember that God is LOVE. He cares about your hurting heart.

How can we get through the hard places?

--Realize, God won’t allow more than you can bear. Easy to say/read; harder to accept. But it’s true nonetheless.

--Accept that there’s always a reason. Granted we may not know, may never know, but God does.

--Take the Job-mindset. “Though he slay me, still I’ll trust in him.” No matter what happens, determine you will serve God.

--Pray and lean on God. He’s your source of help and strength. Only God can see us through the rough patches.

Just as Emma Jaine, in my WWII novel: With Music in Their Hearts, had to come to terms with her situation and make the decision to STICK IT OUT, so sometimes in life, we have to do the same. Emma Jaine found her solution when she turned her heart and wishes over to God. He provided her answers for her problems and life.

He’ll do the same for you.

Carole's previous appearance's on Everyone's Story:

Stirring Readers To Act With A Heart

Why Learning New Things Is Well Worth The Trip


Carole's Ah-hahs To Tweet:

Rough patches in life? Author Carole Brown @browncarole212 has advice. (Tweet This)

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Like WWII fiction? Check out Carole Brown’s #BookGiveaway (Tweet This)

Author's Bio:

Brown not only has her award winning (Nominated for an Epic Award, RWA International Digital Awards finalist in Inspiration, Laurel Award finalist, Selah finalist; Genesis semi-finalist) debut novel, The Redemption of Caralynne Hayman, available for purchase now, but a companion book called West Virginia Scrapbook: From the Life of Caralynne Hayman, filled with tidbits of information about West Virginia, quotes, recipes from West Virginia and from Caralynne’s life, pictures and discussion questions for the novel.

November, 2013, the first book in her mystery series, Hog Insane, released, followed in November 1, 2014 by the first book in a new WWII romantic suspense series: With Music In Their Hearts

Besides being a member and active participant of many writing groups, Carole Brown enjoys mentoring beginning writers. She and her husband reside in SE Ohio but have ministered and counseled nationally and internationally. Together, they enjoy their grandsons, traveling, gardening, good food, the simple life, and did she mention their grandsons?

Places to connect with Carole:

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A CHAT WITH AUTHOR/EDITOR CHRISTINA BERRY

My guest today is award-winning author Christina Berry--who, recently married, is now Christina Tarabochia. Congratulations, Christina!! I met Christina at an ACFW conference and when I learned that she was branching out into editing I enlisted her services in preparing for the 2011 Genesis Contest. With Christina's sharp eyes and professional advice, and with God's blessings, I made it into the Semi Finals of this year's Genesis in the  Contemporary Fiction category. It is my pleasure to have Christina as my guest this week.


Christina is graciously giving away one copy of her novel, THE FAMILIAR STRANGER, to a randomly chosen commenter. Please post your e-mail address within the comment!

Christina, publicly, you’ve gone from an unknown wannabe writer to 2nd place winner in the 2008 ACFW Genesis to 2010 Christy Award Finalist to 2010 Carol Winner for Long Contemporary fiction—with your novel THE FAMILIAR STRANGER published in 2009. For some of us that’s a very short trip down the path of publication. Looking back, aside from your excellent writing, do you think there was anything else that helped you along, whether self-determination, a mentor, or God’s timing?

Many people weren't privy to the Grow-Ouch-Grow-Ouch-Grow years from when I started writing in 1999 until I placed in the Genesis. (I flunked the same contest a few years before when it was known as Noble Theme!) I received 47 rejections during those crafting years, including my favorite, which came in one week after I signed a contract with Moody Publishers. ;p If you are a writer that's there--in that place of limbo--don't despair. Just keep writing! I've heard the average overnight success takes ten years.

I had wonderful mentors, wrote for many years with my mother/co-author, schooled under Donna Fleisher's tough edits, attended and staffed Oregon Christian Writers conferences, built a large newsletter following, blogged, prayed, read craft books, never gave up, used my cheerleading background to portray enthusiasm for projects I was sick of pitching, helped and cheered on fellow authors as they published before me, managed my website, used my wit to network … but I think you hit on the One True Answer there at the end of your question. It was simply God's timing. In fact, as a nice segue into the next question, it was my counselor who told me that God had kept my book for such a time as that, to give me hope, focus, and purpose as I went through the worst months of my life.

You’ve been through a few rough patches of life while you pursued publication? How did you balance writing, working, and maintaining sanity?

Many people would question the sanity part. (As evidenced by my sudden urge to begin each answer in this interview with the phrase "many people.") I was fortunate to be a stay-at-home mom for most of my writing career. However, my husband of thirteen years left our family the week before the dedication page was due to the publisher. From there on out, I scrambled to write, market, and meet publishing deadlines while taking care of 3-5 children (I was also a foster mother) while substitute teaching, and getting serious about my editing career. In some ways, being a single parent was freeing, as I could work until 4 AM if I needed to without disturbing a spouse. In other ways, it was a tremendous handicap because nothing got done if I didn't do it, or delegate it to my kids, or say Yes to my extremely helpful parents' offers.

Here's a practical Helpful Hint: Make a list of the jobs you have to do. Include physical chores, professional duties, and writing goals. Then jump back and forth from one area to the other. This ADD approach might not work for everyone, but it did for me. I felt like consistent progress was being made everywhere, which was better than big progress in one area while another was neglected. Also, I stopped watching most of my favorite TV shows, quit any hobbies, and generally had no life. This helps one get a lot done.

But then I started dating ...

Mr. and Mrs. Tarabochia

And you’re newly married. Congratulations!! Any tips for focusing on writing despite caring for children, demanding bosses, or spouses wanting more of your time?

Many people … ah, forget it. lol

Thank you! We met on eHarmony and they matched us perfectly. :) I've had to reprioritize my life. My husband comes first and needs to know it. Our combined five children come next. Then I do the mix of making progress on unpacking, set up the household, editing, and writing-related jobs. Slow, but steady, progress. My heart is truly a Tarabochia, so I'm also going through the process to change all my professional sites to Christina Tarabochia (ter-ah-BOK-ee-u) from Christina Berry. Yes, it's incredibly hard to spell or say, but the truth of the matter is it's my wonderful husband's presence in my life that will allow me to continue my writing career and he deserves the credit on the book jacket!

My tip, after having gone through the dramatic and unexpected loss of a marriage, is to treasure your loved ones. If they are truly and deeply loved, it's more likely they will band together and pull more weight to give you writing time. Don't despise the small moments. Maybe it's five minutes in the carpool line, ten minutes as the noodles boil for dinner, or fifteen while the spouse checks his email--grab those minutes and write a paragraph, edit a page, or brainstorm. Little bits add up to large amounts.

A wedding is meant for the whole family

In addition to your writing you’re now offering editing services. Can you tell us about these services? And what has led you to expand from writer to editor?

God's given me a heart to help people achieve their writing dreams, and editing falls into that calling naturally. For the last eight years, I've been blessed to be part of a critique group—The Redeemed Writers—that goes above and beyond the usual critiques. Basically, we edit each line while still looking at full story arcs and character development. That was my training ground. A man tried our group out and we declined to offer him a spot as we weren't a good fit, but he so enjoyed my comments on his novel that he hired me to edit the whole thing. That was the beginning of it all.

Now I have great clients--with room for more--who are brave enough to let me go through their novels and are wonderful enough to pay me for doing something I love!

When I began looking into getting a free-lance editor to take me to the next level, I simply could not afford the prices well-established authors were charging. I determined to give a luscious, cheesecake edit at an apple pie price. I do as much or as little of a project as my clients want and charge $2 a finished page. This past spring, ALL of my current clients either semi-finaled in the Genesis or were going to committee with respected houses. Whoohoo!

Christina here are some of what I hope will be fun but interesting questions:

Dear Ms. Editor,

When you say 85,000 words do you really mean that? Or is it okay to send 86,905?

Challenged by word count in Illinois

Dear Challenged,

I've not met a word count Nazi yet, so you're good to go. If you are within 5% of the stated word count, you'll probably be fine. However, stating 86,905 might brand you as a newbie who's so in love with each precious word that each one MUST be counted. Instead, just say 87,000. Don't worry; it's called rounding up, not lying.

Dear Ms. Editor,

I keep falling in love with my hero & while I know I can improve upon his character, every time I reread my work, for the life of me, Hero does no wrong. Any suggestions?

Vexed Velma, PA

Dear Vexed,

Create a profile for him on eHarmony and see if other women fall in love with him too. There's always the chance that you've written the perfect man. In fact, that might just be the problem. Give your hero a flaw. Scars tell stories. He will improve as you make him more fallible.

Dear Ms. Editor:

Do you have any suggestions on weaving snippets of back-story into the front of the book?

Eager to tell all in British Columbia

Dear Eager,

I love back story. Obviously you do too. The only problem is … readers don't. But that back story provides you with rich characters and complicated plots, right? Right. So type those first fifty pages with all of that in your head and none of it leaking onto the page. Trying to figure out the subtext of speech and actions is one of the most intriguing part of reading any book. Until you err on the side of too little information, as in Mr. Bigtime Editor reads your manuscript and says, "I love the writing, pacing, characters, and dialogue, but I'm lost as to the story," keep cutting the back story out.

For an interesting lesson in how quickly a character can be formed with extremely little back story, watch Improve Everywhere's Ted's Birthday Surprise http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0EjuEx95u3Y Disclaimer: it does take place in a bar.

Dear Ms. Editor:

I’d love to get a jump on the next hot thing. Is that possible? Do publishers consider anything as fresh writing these days?

Dreaming of being the next big name, Kansas Katrina

Dear Dreaming,

Maybe you could write retro fiction. Old is new. Do a King James English chick lit Amish series.

Or just keep writing, learning, refining, and wait for what you naturally write to BECOME the next hot thing.

Dear Ms. Editor,

With the explosion of e-books, what do you see as next? Can an author just stick to printed sells and be oblivious to all the extra media formats hatching daily?

Wishing for yesteryear in Wyoming

Dear Wishing,

If you are an author who has done well to middlin' in print sales, I think you will tend to stay with traditional houses. If you have done extremely well, you will also be able to do extremely well epublishing because your name is what sells the book now, not the publisher. If you have never published in print, but start in ebooks, you will probably have the same experience either way. Meaning that your book might take off and sell thousands, it might sell hundreds to close friends and family, or it might only sell what you buy yourself to make sure the Purchase button is working.

Personally, I'm looking forward to taking old projects, and releasing them as ebooks. Take, for instance, the novel my mom and I wrote and rewrote for SEVEN years: On the Threshold. It made the publishing rounds a few times. It was almost bought before round after round of budget cuts hit that publisher. We put the time and talent into it, and soon readers will have a chance to decide if it's any good. Yet I'll continue to pursue traditional publishing with my new projects.

Dear Ms. Editor:

When using third person POV and trying to ground your reader with your POV character, how do you avoid seeming redundant? Any creative ways to remain inside your POV character's head without constantly using the generalities of she saw, she noticed, etc.? Any rules or reminders that will help the writer make the association outside the box?

Perplexed about POV

Dear Perplexed,

I can't take credit for this, but I think it's a great way to make third person more intimate: write the scene in first person initially, then convert back to third.

As for the distancing phrases--"I wondered" and "I heard" and "I hoped" and "I saw"--quite often, those phrases can simply be chopped off the front of the sentences.

If it's wondering, rephrase an internal dialogue question.

"She wondered if he saw her grand entrance." => "Had he seen her grand entrance?"

Using informal writing and sentence fragments can also ground the reader in the character’s mind.

And Christina, our hard-working editor, here is the one question that every new writer--or perhaps even multi-published authors--are curious about:

Dear Ms. Editor,

If I were to enlist your help in fine-tuning my work to pitch to an agent or editor, how could you guarantee that I might stop hearing those grating words “Your story is well written but somehow I just didn’t fall in love with your characters.”?

Feel-like-I’m-running-out-of-time, Detroit boy

Dear Detroit,

I offer no guarantees. My award-winning novel was turned down by one editor because she didn't like that it started in the male POV. Publishers have strong and varying opinions of the projects that come before them. I can't manipulate any of their opinions to keep you from hearing the dreaded it's-not-me-it's-your-story editor break up speech. But I can help you delve into deeper POV, faster pacing, and powerful prose.

As for the timing issue, see the top of interview, and ask God to help you wait on His timing. :)

~*~THANK YOU CHRISTINA~*~

Christina Tarabochia (formerly Christina Berry)
Carol Winner & Christy Finalist 2010 ~ The Familiar Stranger(Moody Publishers) Order now!
www.christinaberry.net
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Author's Bio:

Free-lance editor and author Christina (Berry) Tarabochia writes about the heart and soul of life with a twist of intrigue. She holds a bachelor's degree in literature, yet loves a good Calculus problem as well. She is a member of American Christian Fiction Writers (ACFW) and Oregon Christian Writers (OCW). This newlywed attempts to stay sane--somewhat--even with the mixing of two families and five kids. 

Her debut novel, The Familiar Stranger, released from Moody in September '09 and deals with lies, secrets, and themes of forgiveness in a troubled marriage. A moving speaker and dynamic teacher, Christina strives to Live Transparently--Forgive Extravagantly!